May 15, 2011
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Darwinism if I ever saw it…
I read the last entry to him.
Or, I started to anyhow… I got to, “He is jealous as a Husband is for His Wife. He is jealous the way a Father is of the Daughter that’s dating the memory of the boy He knows. Do you know? We were created in His image.” and he just.. so overwhelned. Hands up. Time out.
Too deep. Too personal. Too close to home.
I apologized and let the rest of the sermon go.
His cousin bolted. After observing, “Man, you really put a lot of thought into that..,” and apologizing, “Man, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to start an arguement,” slipping out with the upmost of humaness.
And Chris tried to backstroke. He’s trying to understand it all. But. Hands up.
And i know. if i would just get out of the way.
maybe not so much intensity?
Comments (3)
I think it’s hard for people to get into ‘listener mode’. Maybe it just wasn’t a good time for him or he didn’t realize how important it was to you for him to listen. Or sometimes people are their own precarious balance on the inside and they don’t want the boat rocked. Or, it might be frightening to them to know you’ve had these kinds of questions.
I tend to be the same way with my family and spouse and it can be really difficult to get that validating feedback. I don’t know what to tell you. Probably a big part of why a place like xanga is important to me.
@distractedbyzombies - I know. And I do realize I can be a bit too much to absorb all at once. It’s frustrating. I need – or at least I feel like I need acknowledgement, confirmation, and if it’s not too much to add – understanding.. aka validation, lol. To know that I’m translating right. To know that it’s understandable. And yeah, that’s why I’ve found myself here again and again. Xanga, for the most part, is a mentalvomit-friendly place, where I can sphiel it all out without overwhelming so many innocent bystanders.
@SimplytobeMe - LOL I’m sure it’s not so messy as all of that.
Validation is a tricky thing. Communication, too. And cooking hamburgers. I think my coals will not wait another minute for me.